Citation : Singh AR (2023) Even A Very Sick Person's Face Lights Up On Seeing A Loved One .In :Ghalib, Psychology and Human Behaviour - 1 (A.R Singh and S.A Singh Eds), Mens Sana Monogr; 21:1.pg 4-5
ان کے دیکھے سے جو آ جاتی ہے منہ پر رونق
وہ سمجھتے ہیں کہ بیمار کا حال اچھا ہے
उन के देखे से जो आ जाती है मुँह पर रौनक़
वो समझते हैं कि बीमार का हाल अच्छा है
un ke dekhe se jo aa jaatii hai mu.nh par raunaq
vo samajhte hai.n ki biimaar kaa haal achchhaa hai
(DG 175:5:1082)
Meaning
Since the face lights up on seeing her/him
She/He thinks the patient is doing well.
Explanation:
When a loved one visits the sick, the patient’s face lights up temporarily. This may give a mistaken feeling that the patient is well. The joy is due to the loved one’s presence, not reflecting the patient’s actual condition. Care-givers need to especially bear this in mind.
Patients put up a brave face even before doctors. It doesn’t mean they are actually well.
All this is so because, even in sickness, we wear a mask to conceal our real state and project a ‘positive’ image.
Patients conceal their true feelings even when they are suicidal. That’s why it comes as a shock when someone overtly well and ‘brave’ makes such an attempt.